Sex & Relationships

Teens are having sex. Like it or not. Even though you may be ready physically, are you ready emotionally? There's no doubt that adding sex to a relationship changes the dynamics. Sorting through complex emotions and feelings can help you make the best decision for yourself.

Rules for Relationships Gone Bad

• Identify the problem - only deal with one problem at a time and don't bring up the past
• Focus on the problem - not the person, be willing to solve the problem
• Take responsibility - be responsible for your actions in the fight
• Use "I" statements - try not to use "you" statements
• NO FOULS - no blaming, put-downs, shouting, name-calling, swearing, cutting in, sarcasm or unkind tone of voice
• Don't hold grudges - if you're not happy with the result, be honest and bring it up again
• Don't be stubborn - be willing to be wrong and to reach a middle ground. Try to see your partner's point of view
• Pay attention to timing - bring it up when you and your partner can talk about it
• Take a break - if the argument is heating up, tale a break and cool down, but make sure to name a time to talk about it again
• LISTEN! - take to heart what your partner is saying instead of planning what you are going to say next
• Try not to get defensive or attacking - speak and act like you mean it while trying to talk about the problem, without attacking or running away from your partner

Adapted from "In Touch with Teens", LACAAW Created by: The Campus Wellness Center